Okay I set up a new comment system! Shouts out to Damien for hosting it. It's definitely better than CommentBox: it's got real formatting, you can change your avatar, and you can link back to your homepage.

The catch is that CommentBox didn't actually include commenter emails in its data export, so you won't be able to update your old comments by default. If you want to do so, send me an email at ask@nex-3.com with a link to one of your old comments and I'll manually reset the email associated with that account so you can go through the password recovery flow.

The process of building out this site has inevitably involved design choices about how to engage with various technologies and other people's web presences. It's a truism that you can't solve social problems with technology, but social media has made it just as clear that technology does shape the social dynamics that emerge in the spaces it mediates. This drives me to wonder: as more of my friends and friends-of-friends move to individual websites and blogs, what social dynamics does this give rise to? And what different technical designs could improve those dynamics?

I think it's most interesting to approach this question from the social direction rather than the technological. Our first priority should be a set of social goals for interacting on the internet, and only with that understanding firmly in hand can we start usefully interrogating the way technology gives rise to or fights against the sort of interactions we want. My ultimate aim is to articulate a clear vision of a way to interact with people's websites that's not just a pastime or a research process, but that can meet social needs—to imagine what I'll call a "sociable web".

Sociable Web not Social Network

I'm using the term "sociable web" as a conscious contrast to "social network". Social networks have unavoidably shaped our understanding of what form of socialization is possible online, and I don't even think it's always been for the worse. But now they are fragmenting and rotting, and whatever was good about them—their casual usability, the massive network effect of "all your friends are here"—is falling away like so much decayed flesh. I want to envision something new, and when doing so I often find that a new name can help.

"Web" versus "Network"

I'm not interested in a "network" in the sense either of a single company overseeing many users or a decentralized collection of nodes like the Fediverse that is nevertheless tightly coupled technologically. I don't think either of these forms are sustainable in a capitalist world. They are either fed by boundless venture capital coffers which inevitably move to capitalize their userbase, or they're built on the backs of massive amounts of unpaid labor and poorly-understood power structures. The exploitative conditions under which these networks are produced run downstream and affect their social dynamics.

I'm interested in a social form that uses as its foundation the web itself. Where anyone can participate just by having a website. Where the existing networks are, to some degree, part of that form already simply by virtue of being accessible over HTTPS.

"Sociable" versus "Social"

"Social" is unopinionated. "Social" is throwing a bunch of people into a room and seeing what happens. A party can be social, but so can a witch hunt. "Social" is thinking about the technology as primary and allowing the social dynamics to fall out from that. When things are built to be merely "social", they force the real humans who use them into chaotic interactions both healthy and harmful, a…

I'll make a more thorough post about this at some point, but the short answer is that all you really need to do is tell my Webmention receiver the URL to your post and the URL to the post it's reblogging. You can do that manually by pasting the link to your post in the little webmention form beneath each of mine, or automatically by hooking up your blog's RSS feed to webmention.app.

The only bit of markup that can help here is adding either class="u-repost-of" or class="u-in-reply-to"^[1] on your post to indicate what it's reposting or replying to. Use u-repost-of if it's just a plain repost without any additions, and u-in-reply-to if you're adding any additional content. You can put these on:

• A simple <a> tag whose href is my post.
• The root element of an h-cite that provides more metadata about my post.
• The root element of an h-entry fully embeds my post in your blog. (This is technically non-standard but it's what I do and it seems to work with everything I've tested.)

I've set up my site so that it hides Webmention likes and reposts, but displays replies as comments below the post. See this post for an example of that in action.

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1. Technically you can also do class="u-like-of" to indicate a like but that's not something that makes a lot of sense in a static site context. ↩︎

claiming the third of the three slots. I'm Natalie

once again buying way more stickers than I have places to put stickers, even given that I keep layering them on my water bottle like sedimentary deposits

there's an article on these (in Vietnamese), with more photos of La Quốc Bảo's work

This post is by now a bit late for National Coming Out Day, but I did enjoy Dr. Davis's history of its observance and the political background of the concept of "coming out" and I particularly appreciated Shel's additions. She considers her experience specifically as a straight trans woman, the value of being out to her, and its value to the community. It feels a little silly to repost a link roundup, but this is definitely one worth reading!

I'm the guy they hire to come up to the protagonist and make weird, vaguely threatening faces at them when they first enter a new city or the underworld or whatever. just to emphasize that they're out of their depth. pay's shit and I'm always on call but what can I say I love the work

for not fully realizing until this week that they are distinct human beings. in my defense they are both blond white Canadian guys named Ryan. I am listening, I am learning, I am going back through every film I've ever seen with either of them and trying to figure out which was which